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Apr 2, 2009

What are good ways to transfer from co sleeping to their own bed?

Q: My son is almost 7 months old and within the next few months we'd like to begin to try to persuade him to sleep in his own crib, which is in our room. Not because I don't enjoy co sleeping but because it's getting mighty uncomfortable for all of us and with the weather getting hotter, the baby getting bigger it seems that our full size bed isn't very full at all, in fact it's tight and cramped and really really hot for all of us. We use the AC, we use fans in the room and very little bedding however it's just not working and none
of us are getting much rest because of this. What are some good ways to transfer him in a nurturing, loving manner to his own crib (it will be right next to our bed at night). I'm not willing to let him CIO so please don't suggest that. Thanks in advance.

A: Cuddle Caleb to sleep in a chair or in your bed as usual. Once he's out (really out, not fake out like they like to do), move him into his crib. One of the things I do is I tuck my housecoat into his crib or cover him with it so he still has my scent (nice scent, not smelly).

Next step? Listen well to his cries. If he cries to eat, feed him. If he cries for a quick snuggle, give him one. If he just moans and groans leave him, and if he has that wimpy, sleepy cry, give him a wiggle while he's still lying down (you can also try a quiet, soft nighttime musical toy for him - we use one and it's great!). Every time he wakes up, handle it. If it happens 10 times - and it will some nights, just meet his needs, and then put him into the crib.

It may take 2 days, it may take 2 weeks, but he will get used to it. BUT - here's the hard part. Once you're committed to making this move, don't bring him back into your bed with you to actually sleep. What that will do is teach him that it's attainable. So, for the next while, it's not attainable for him. And it's imperative that there is consistency with it. Now, this is tricky, because it's sooo much easier to nurse him in bed right? You still can, just put him back in his crib once you're done. Good luck not falling asleep!

Or, you can buy a king-sized bed (always good to have options, eh?!)

I put a link in to the little nighttime toy we use for Jakers - I have to say, it is amazing and much, much better than the Glo-Worm. Our little guy will actually turn it on himself at night now; it is so cute!

I hope this helps hon! Cheers to sleeping more than 4 hours at a time without baby feet in your side (be prepared...you're gonna miss him and want him cuddled up with you...uh oh!).

*Edit
Shirley? Who's Shirley? She sounds like a sexy genius! Hardy har!

You know, it's really not bad once you get used to the maternal guilt and missing him. Youch! Really, though, you still snuggle, you nurse, there's still tonnes of love, he's just in his crib for the heavy parts of his sleep. Besides, that way you can wake up to see his bouncing and smiles at the side of the crib - your heart will just melt!

And, once he has it down pat and he's a little older, you can get those little naps with him again!

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